Cybersex 101 a serial by Cynthia McCaffrey

Some old fashioned advice on a new topic...sexually oriented online chat rooms! Among other things we learn that age has nothing to do with libido.

Cyber-Sex 101 -- Introduction Your instructor is Professor Taltos003! ... Better known as Cynthia's alter ego - Yes that's what I said Cyber-sex! A place where people go on line to get it on! Sad isn't it? I can't imagine anything sadder.

Getting Started - Getting started in a chat room is more complex than you might think. You need a good imagination and a little knowledge of computer lingo. At the end of each lesson I will be including a brief outline of some of the computer vocabulary I have come across. I thought it might be helpful.

Never assume you know anything! - Last time we met we were approaching our first cyber-sex experience. 'Thebeast' had whispered and I had answered him. I was surprised at the response I felt going into this area of cyber-land. It was as if I was in a real room and there were real people sitting around drinking real coffee. The illusion was good.

Be Prepared! - When we left off I was starting to realize I had finally bitten off more than I could chew. This world of cyber-sex was far more complex than I had ever imagined. As cocky as I was over the whole subject, I found I was reminding myself that all I had to do was click out of the room and that would be the end of it.

So much to learn, such little time! - By now I am sure you have figured out that this has all become a lot more complicated than I thought it would be. I must apologize for dragging this one on and on. Believe me it isn't intentional, things are just a touch more complicated than I thought they would be. (lol) 

Let's take an honest look! - Hello again! Welcome back! I'm glad to see your still hanging in there with us. Last time I had started off with my first experience. Once again I must apologize for the length of time it has taken me to complete my introduction to the first time. I quickly came to realize I was going to have to dig very deep in my writer's bag of tricks. That is if I was to get the full impact of chat rooms across to you. Cyber-land was a far more complex issue than I had ever dreamed it would be. 

You are what you are, accept the facts! - We left off last time as I was beginning to have a conversation with a nice young man in the s. & m. chat room. He seemed to understand what I was trying to do (with Cyber-sex 101). He even seemed to be willing to teach me as we went along. This was very kind of him; it can be really time consuming and takes a fair bit of patience. 

Watching for land mines! - When we left off last time I was having a conversation with a young man named 'sir*knight'. We were chatting in a s. & m. chat room. He had agreed to try to teach me about the lifestyle of a s. & m. person in the chat rooms. He had already made it very clear he didn't think I was suited to the lifestyle. Even though he felt I wasn't suited to be either a dom. or a sub. he said he would be happy to teach me what goes on in an average night's chat between a dom. and a sub.

Trials and Tribulations - Hello again! Well to start with I feel I must thank Ms. McCaffrey for taking the last class for me. As you know I was down with a nasty bout of the flu. I do hope you enjoyed your time with her. She is one of my favorite assistants and tells a pretty good story. But I am all better now and it’s time to carry on with our program. Hopefully there won’t be any other interruptions. Lets carry one to lesson eight then.

Deception of the heart! - Welcome back ladies and gentlemen. It’s very nice to see you again. As I mentioned last time today’s lesson is going to be dealing with some of the more serious pit falls that you may encounter in chat rooms. I don’t want to begin this lesson sounding like I have nothing but gloom and doom to report to you. I think by now you all know I have been having a blast meeting and chatting with all my new friends in cyber-land. But I have come across a few pitfalls that I really believe are worth mentioning to you.

Using Your Common Sense! - As I was lying in bed the other night, (yes I do sleep sometimes), I began thinking about working on my next lesson plan. Suddenly I was hit with the realization that I have pretty well covered what I could about the dangers in chats. I’m sure I have missed so very important facts that I should be giving you. I am only human after all and even I can miss things. But really I can’t say that there are any more dangers on-line than there is in the real world. I have to be honest the real world scares me a hell of a lot more than anything I have ever found in chat rooms.

The concept of reality! - I’m sure by now the majority of you understand that I think cyber-sex is a good thing. I think it’s a safe (if you use common sense) way to begin a relationship. One of the most positive facts is that generally people spend a great deal of time talking on-line. Therefore, if they are being honest, you already know a lot about each other.

More On The Concept of Reality! - Reality is a word I deal a lot with. If it isn’t the reality of everyday life, it’s the reality of looking at the research that makes up my work. I think I handle the reality of life fairly well. I enjoy learning all I can, and I understand that to expect life to be fair and honest all the time is irrational. The only thing we can do is try to be fair and honest in governing our own lives, and hope the favor will be returned. Realistically we can only hope the scales of justice fall close to even in the end for us. To expect or demand more than that is only futile, believe me.

What to expect from cyber-sex! - I will begin this lesson close to where we left off last time. In a castle, in a land, I like to call ‘Serenity’; my dear servant ‘Raven’ was preparing a nice fire for me. I sit in the middle of an over- stuffed bed, surrounded by big over- stuffed pillows, as soft as goose down. I watch him, from my perch, as he busies himself and begins drawing me a bubble bath. His muscles shine with sweat as he lifts a large kettle of hot water from over the fire. He bends over a big metal bathtub and begins to pour the water in. He looks over his shoulder and smiles at me. It’s a sweet innocent smile I see when I look at him.

Learning how to enjoy life! - As promised, today I shall attempt to carry on with the conversation between ‘Raven’ and myself. ‘Raven was just beginning to try to turn the tables on me, so to speak. At least that’s what I thought he was trying to do. I had entered the adult’s role-play room, fully expecting to be the mistress to a nice hunk of a male servant. So far I had gotten my fantasy man and gone to my fantasy castle, but something was about to become amiss in my never, never land. My male servant, whom I fondly call ’Raven’, has other plans for me.

Letting Go! - I am going to begin this week with a little honesty check. All those who are guilty of procrastination please raise your hand. Well will you look at that? I’m the first one to raise their hand. Why doesn’t this surprise me? Because I know exactly what I have been doing for the last couple of weeks. And I also know I have been really neglecting the writing part of my life. I have a very valid excuse. I have houseguests, and I have been spending all my spare time enjoying them. That’s my excuse, and I’m sticking to it!

The wonders of the mind. - Hello again! Glad to see you’ve joined me. As you may recall I was trying to express my evening with the Raven in a story form. Not an easy task, believe me. There are so very many things that happen to us in our lifetime. Most of these we can’t even come close to explaining in simple words. So please try to remember I am attempting to tell the story the way I experienced it. And simple words are all I’ve got to give you. I can’t promise that I will be able to succeed in sending out a clear message. That said, let’s carry on, shall we?

How far can you go? - The Mistress Lilith snuggled back into her over stuffed pillows on her very big bed. She was relaxed and happily content in a way she had never been. It felt almost as if she had found a whole new set of feelings.

Reaching beyond what you think you know  - As I was saying last time, I have experienced a wide variety of different things in my life. I sport a great love for adventures and go out of my way sometimes just to find one. There have been times when my love for adventure gets me into a little hot water, but generally I manage to stay out of trouble.

The future as I see it! - Hello again and welcome back. A funny thing happened to me (no not on the way to the office) the other day and I really want to share it with you. As you may recall I mentioned the fact that I was interested in exploring the more smutty sides of writing. Well, I decided to try a couple of quick short stories on a few of my chat room friends. I am humbled to say they went nuts for them.

Fare-well, hello again! - As I sit at my keyboard, the last nineteen lessons we have had together begin to run through my mind. It’s the kind of memories that come in short flashes. (I’m sure you know what I mean) Some memories simply stand out sharper than others.