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Here are a few recent inquiries I've received regarding astrology. I think when one of
us has a question, we speak for others as well. As always, you can write me with you astrological queries at:
astrohealth@storiesbyemail.com.
Dear Kimberly:
I came across your story while searching for info on how to cheer up my cap (Capricorn) (either from one of our arguments or from his own dark mood). I saw that you had said there was no cheering one up...and I find that it is quite hard. I don't know if you might have any advice for this combination of signs? I'm a leo, and my boyfriend is cap...we seem quite compatible most times...but can get off base very quickly...he is patient for only so long...then seems to have a delayed anger at me for my behavior. We seem to be standing and pointing fingers...not really seeing our own part.
Dear Leo,
Thanks for your inquiry, and I hope I can give you some food for thought. My position on cheering up a Capricorn stands
firm; however, if any sign can dazzle, delight, exasperate and entertain him through his gloom it's Leo, even if only mildly. Keep in mind that 'showing' delight is rarely going to happen despite the inward smiles that might be
occurring during your romantic/playful antics. He finds you adorable, trust me, and certainly respects you or he wouldn't be with you, but conveying this would disturb his somber facade. Capricorn is a slow moving energy and must be allowed the space to respond in its own time; Leo can become impatient and perhaps even bored with the sometimes absence of interaction and engagement. Leo's are like kitties and like to play with whatever happens in front of them; Capricorn feels compelled to 'parent' others and will hold you accountable for behaviors just because that's how their energy operates. Focus on your mutual strengths and learn ways to distract yourself while your Cappy moves through his own rhythms. You both value materialism, ambition, family, fine living, worldly sophistication and lustful sex. You both hate being wrong, but in relationships someone has to cultivate strategies for cooperative communication and whoever is most willing in the moment gets elected. Try to remember this: do you want to be right or do you want to be loving? Keep your Leonine pride/indignation/righteousness in check and learn to stretch and be flexible (just like a cat). Next time there's a finger pointing session, walk up and lick his finger then point yourselves toward the 'bedroom' and put that passion to better use. In my opinion, great sex really is the answer to most of life's problems. Loving What Is and accepting one another is a treasured gift.
Dear Kimberly,
I'm a Cancer and was told by another astrologer that I should stay away from Aries. My boyfriend is an Aries so now I'm confused. I really like him and we get along except when we fight over money. What do you think? I don't think we'll ever agree on money, but he wants to get married. He's so romantic and loves kids. Please help.
Dear Cancer,
We are drawn together by a power that doesn't read or need astrology columns. There is nothing random in this universe and the people in our lives are here for a reason that we don't always understand, agree with or sometimes even like, but our will determines our life so our contrary opinion simply extends the lesson. Your Aries man has something you need and you have something he needs and we can extract some compatible qualities to assure you this union is right, but that would be missing the point. Astrology is not a match making tool, but it's tempting to turn it into one. For example, we could suggest that the child-like qualities of Aries meets the needs of Cancer to mother and the converse. Your money struggles exist because of attitude and values that aren't likely to change over the course of your relationship so you need to find a compromise. Aries spends what it gets and often more; Cancer thrives on security and a well feathered nest egg. These can be two opposing positions if that's how you see it. Or, the challenge might be to separate this area of your relationship and each of you handle your own monies, however, in my opinion this is not an intimacy building technique. Recognizing your differences, allowing each other the space to express genuinely and meeting each other halfway on the road of compromise is the road with higher altitude. You are not together to change one another. You are together to learn all of the ways you stop yourself from being totally loving and letting those ways go free. Isn't that great? Accept your differences as a gift with a blessing just waiting to be found.
Your Will Is Your Life!
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