Cybersex 102, Lesson 5
by Cynthia McCaffrey

If You Can’t Take The Heat Then Give Up Cooking!

Your Instructor is Professor Taltos

How many lessons does it take for people to understand they must be careful with their online relationships? I’ll give you a hint: at least one more time!

As I’ve told you time and time again you must be very careful to keep your real world and the wonderful world of cyber land in their proper places. I won’t deny that there are times when real love is found online. Sometimes things work out just fine; I won't deny that. The majority of times, however, the relationships you will find are meant to be fantasy and fantasy only!

You will find many people online that you can share your life with, if you wish. You will definitely find a partner to share your fantasies with, if that’s what you’re looking for. You will find that most of the time you end up with, at the best, a really long lasting good friendship.

It seems however there are a few of you that don’t seem to understand this. I will once again go quickly through the rules of online sex and why. For the rest of you who are moaning right now, why not read along, and let’s see if you’re as smart as you think you are. I’ll bet if I could ask you one on one what the rules are you wouldn’t be able to tell me.

In random order here we go!

1. Be careful what info you share with anyone online. Thinking you can remain anonymous without being careful is like practicing unprotected sex. Sooner or later it will all catch up to you.

2. If you decide to actually meet in person, make sure you’ve done your homework. Check out the individual’s information in any way you can. If you’re not sure how to do this, there are many helpful sites online. The how-to-do-it-yourself detective-type-of-sites carry a lot concerning online background checks.

3. Before going to all this trouble, let the person you’re intending to meet know that you’re thinking of doing this. You may find they sing a different tune when they know they may be found out.

4. Don’t be afraid to be up front with a person. If you’re looking for a particular type of thrill, let them know that right at the start of you’re first meeting. This can save you and whomever you’re chatting with a lot of time.

5. Take some time to get to know your likes and dislikes. Don’t be shy about asking questions or surfing around a bit. I know some rooms hate it when people surf, but personally I think that’s a great way to find what you’re looking for.

6. Take your time getting to know what you are interested in. I’ve jumped into rooms with both feet and then realized I wasn’t prepared for what I had gotten myself into. You can really put a damper on what could be a good time by trying things a little too fast. Get your feet a little damp before taking the plunge. Once again you can find information on anything, if you look for it. Cyber-land has opened up a whole new world of information. Why not take advantage of it?

I’ll continue a wee bit more on this at a later date, but I think you get the general drift of what I’m driving at. If you’re wondering what set me off this time, all I can say is I’m getting a lot of e-mails (and you know who you are) from individuals who are willing to or all ready have given up their relationships for someone they’ve met online, only to find out (surprise, surprise) things weren’t what they thought they would be. This is simply my somewhat feeble way to say for crying out loud think about what you have before you through it away for something you’re not even sure of.

This is Professor Taltos signing off for now.

Remember to send your e-mails to proftaltos@yahoo.ca.

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