Cyber-Sex 101 -- Part 7
by Cynthia McCaffrey

Watching for land mines!

Your instructor is Professor Taltos

When we left off last time I was having a conversation with a young man named 'sir*knight'. We were chatting in a s. & m. chat room. He had agreed to try to teach me about the lifestyle of a s. & m. person in the chat rooms. He had already made it very clear he didn't think I was suited to the lifestyle. Even though he felt I wasn't suited to be either a dom. or a sub. he said he would be happy to teach me what goes on in an average night's chat between a dom. and a sub.

The fact that I was new to this situation was, in some ways, a good thing. I would be able to give a fresh perspective on the subject. But it had its drawbacks also. I was easy prey it wouldn't be hard to lead me astray so to speak. It wasn't that being new meant you got picked on but I figured why take any chances. Being new to any situation I find it's best to stay a little extra on my guard. Just enough to be sure I was going safely and sanely about my mission.

I have to tell you I am fully aware that, a few of you are wondering, where the hell is the steamy side to this program? Well I wish I could say there isn't a need to have a steamy side to this issue, but that would be so very untrue. I have always managed to get my point across without going to the smutty level of life. Besides my capabilities as a porn writer are questionable at the best. But woe unto me there is a need to be smutty and I am getting there. 

If I leave out some of the hot and heavy stuff you would never be able to understand what I found in chats. But I do ask please be patient with me, for crying out loud. Let a girl get there her own way please! This whole situation has been a whole lot more work than I want to admit. 

This brings me to a point I wanted to make. I will always be the first to admit when I have taken on more than I can handle. I can handle writing about cyber-sex and hopefully I will do a fair job. I simply went into this with a smartass attitude and I am now realizing for the first time in my life just how judgmental I am. 

I can in no way atone for the way I have always been. I have enough common sense to know guilt is a totally useless emotion. (Once again my own opinion) I don't want anyone to think I am writing this to try to make up for the way I have always thought when it came to this issue. But I am in no way going to be able to cover all the information I want in this program in ten chapters. 

I am therefore going to extend our lesson plan to fifteen lessons instead of the ten we originally began with. I hope I am not going to bore you to tears and I will get to the juicy stuff you are waiting for, well some of you that is. This will allow me to be much more complete and accurate in my attempts to cover all the areas we have to dwell into. (Trust me dwell is a good word for it) Having said that I will now continue on with the night I learned a lot about myself and people in general, from a very unusual young man named 'sir*knight'.

"Sir*knight' had requested that I go and do some homework on the lifestyles of a few types of sexual preferences. I was to find out about something called Goreans, subservient and domination, and slaves and masters. I would learn much more by learning about each lifestyle this way. It made sense to me so I agreed to meet him in the chat room when I had done as he wished. I figured this shouldn't be a difficult thing to achieve. I mean all I had to do was find some of the rooms and go into them and ask questions. One thing about the chat rooms I have found that people love to answer questions and explain things to you. Information, to a great degree is what it's all about. This makes my life much easier most of the time.

With this in mind I set off to find a nice not too crowed chat room that entered into the world of Gor. My first attempt was to be a sad failure. As fast as I entered I was booted out. This upset me to no end; I'm not use to being kicked out of anywhere. Twice I tried and twice I was promptly thrown out. 

I tried going in and politely asking if someone would explain the world of Gorean's to me. They kicked me out. I went in and said nothing giving only my a.s.l; again they kicked me out. Frustrated and confused I began to go through the list of rooms available to me that dealt with the Gorean world. While I was doing so my little voice (who I might add had been relatively quite these days) started to chatter away in the back of my head. 

It was telling me if I had been kicked out of both rooms I tried to enter didn't that tell me I was missing something and that was why I wasn't welcome. I finally developed some common sense and decided to go to a Gorean web site and read up on the world of Gor. My motto is when in doubt find out, which was exactly what I intended to do. There wasn't a chance in hell that I was prepared for what I found.

The world of Gor, oh my God, the world of Gor is the kind of place that makes girls like me crazy. It is a creation of the writer John Norman. In my opinion Mr. Norman is a very talented and amazingly creative writer. He has created a world where men are the only rulers. And women are born to slavery. I don't wish to insult Mr. Norman or his work so I won't try to explain the entire concept of the world called Gor. I will leave the reading to you. Look it up on the net. I think a lot of people will really enjoy his style of writing. There is a little bit of everything in his works. And it is all so very complete. Laws, diet, rules, celebrations and holidays are all there. 

This is a complete world, as complete as the world of Earth is to us. It has everything and a lot more. John Norman was very complete when he went out to create this world. So much so that there are some that believe the world of Gor actually exists somewhere way out in space. The theory I think is that any women taken from the planet earth are slaves also. Yet the slavery is more akin to the relationship of a husband and wife would be here on the planet earth. A lot of times the slavery is not an issue. This also depends on the master and how good of a guy he is. 

This is where I am afraid I have found a land mine. I am definitely not the type of woman who has a desire to serve any one (male or female). I do serve a lot of people in my life and there are times when I feel somewhat like a slave but I call my own rules and I am responsible for what I do and don't do! I could never survive in a relationship where it was the law that I obey; I would be a terrible Gorean I'm afraid.

Having accepted the fact that this is simply the way I am I did find I had a real interest in finding out why anyone would want to be a slave. I mean behind closed doors, I know we all have fantasies. As for myself my fantasies are what I enjoy between my self and my partner. We both know when we get back to everyday life we are partners. I have no time for a master bossing me around while I'm trying to do what I want. I would rebel and run away. Then they would catch me and do all kinds of terrible things to me. No I am sure I don't belong as a Gorean slave woman. 

This isn't to say I don't see the appeal of being a slave. (It's ok Phillip I'm not going there>>>) An inside joke for my kid brother who fears the very thought of reading about his big sisters sex life. This way he knows I'll give him fair warning when the smutt is to come about. 

At any rate what I'm trying to say is that in my mind it's sexy a hell and works wonders for me but not as a permanent thing. It would eventually lose its appeal. If I ever had a master, he would be a kind but stern man. He would have to be kind because I would try his patience, I know I would. (Hell just ask my mate!) And he would have to be stern just to keep any form of control over me. Eventually the poor fella would lose his mind and he would be the one running away. 

I thought I had it all figured out and I had accepted the facts. But I once again I could hear whispers coming from some where way in the back of my head. Since I knew I wasn't crazy, (really I'm not). I knew I was hearing my little voice. My little voice can be a pain but usually he has something worth saying so I try to pay attention. This time was no acceptation; he had a whole pile of useful information for my tired brain. 

My little voice was trying desperately to get me to open my eyes and maybe my mind too. He was pointing out the fact that; yes I did enjoy being a bit of a naughty slave. And I never waste any time reminding myself that it's only a game. To me at that moment, in a sexually aroused state, what's going on between my mate and I is the only thing that exists. To me its real, for a short time it's as real as anything else. So why would I expect it to be so different for people in the chat rooms? Exactly, there is no real difference.

They meet and have a nice fantasy or two and then they go about their everyday lives. Just as I would do in my own bedroom (did I scare you Phillip?). My little voice was right. It was all fantasy! Some in cyber-space and some here on this planet so who was I to question what turns people on. If someone can actually have a sexual experience in cyber-land, then that just meant they are capable of going deeper into the human mind. It means they reach into the mind and find satisfaction. 

You are perhaps wondering is it really possible to find this place? (Yes Phillip you may now leave the room, just kidding) Yes it is. Plain and simple, yes it is. My first night in chats was that kind of experience. I went to a place in my mind that was as real to me as my keyboard. It wasn't the hot sweaty kind of sex I have in the real world. My mate even though he was on the road was with me in my fantasy. It was one of the most erotic feelings I have ever had. I have no words to explain how it happened, or how to do it. I wish I could explain it better. But if you're in the right frame of mind, which means yours has to be open, and if you are lucky enough to have a good teacher then you will experience this. Believe me when I say it's worth taking the time to try.

Sadly I am beginning to believe that it's like being a cocaine addict. I'm told the reason they become hooked is that their always looking for that first high. And they can never find it. I fear cyber-sex is like this, you get hooked looking for that first time feeling. There are those who simply love to chat and that's all they do. But there are a lot of those who get lost in cyber-chat. The more I look into this strange new world the more I understand how easy it is to get lost. I have really enjoyed meeting some of the people I've met during my time there. I often find myself thinking about different ones as I go about my daily real world routine.

It's a really nice place to go to. Especially when you want to run away from all the real world problems. Henceforth the troubling part of this. There are a lot of people sitting in rocky relationships these days. Every relationship has its trials, Some bigger than others. But running to a chat room isn't the answer. Perhaps we could all take a little chat time to appreciate the real people in our lives. And perhaps we could all spend a little less time chatting and a little more time making our real life relationships a bit better. Of course this is just my opinion. 

This also brings to mind a troubling issue for me. As much as we all try to be good citizen in the chat rooms there is a lot of heavy adult stuff going on in there. Believe me this is no place for a child. So any parents out there please rise to your duty and keep an eye on the little ones. They can find their way into these adult chat rooms. Our children are smart little creatures so don't underestimate them. 

Here's a message to any of you creeps who are helping these kids get into adult chats or any of you jerks who go looking for the young ones. The message is trust me the day will come when we will find a way to find out who you are. In my mind there isn't anything lower on this planet than a so-called human who can do these things. Pedophiles are the only animals who bring out my hunting skills. I know in my heart, I could kill to protect the children in my life. Once again I have to point out this is my own personal view on the subject. 

Being a good teacher, I hope, I also want to send out a personal plea to all who go to chat rooms. For crying out loud please be careful! Keep the real world and cyber world apart in their own categories. It's so dangerous to allow too much information out. Cyber stalkers are on the rise and getting smarter everyday. Remember this is only pretend. As wonderful the person seems to be, it's all just make believe. And remember also that we can be anyone or anything we want in cyber-land. I hear too often the damage that's done from trusting someone in chats too much.

That ends my lecture on the subject. And I see I have prattled on for way too long again. Once again I will remind you that I think a fifteen-lesson plan makes much more sense to me. But for now I think it's time I said goodnight and let you get back to your real lives. Don't lose heart my friend we will pick up where we left off.

For now this is Professor Taltos signing off!

A few more acronyms for you.

aka = also known as
b4 = before
bbs = be back soon
cya = see you
wrt = with regard 
nx = thanks
w8am = wait a minute
nei = anyone
resq = rescue
sysop = system operator 
tma take my advice
tyvm = thank you very much 

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