Lesson Eleven!
The concept of reality!
Your instructor is Professor Taltos!
I’m sure by now the majority of you understand
that I think cyber-sex is a good thing. I think it’s a safe (if you use
common sense) way to begin a relationship. One of the most positive facts
is that generally people spend a great deal of time talking on-line.
Therefore, if they are being honest, you already know a lot about each
other. Hopefully there won’t be so many surprises when you finally get
to meet. I swear it’s all the little surprises that come up in a real
world relationship that eventually break it up. I know that I personally
have a hard time with surprises in this world and cyber-land. But I still
think if done right the cyber-land I’ve been to is pretty darn safe. Of
course you can always find trouble no matter where you go. Just remember a
wee bit of common sense goes a long way.
I’ve been reviewing the last few lessons, and
it seems I lean towards the positive side of cyber-sex. I believe
everything in life comes with a balance. Everything no matter what it is
must balance in order to exist. Whether it’s in the ‘real world’ or
‘cyber-land’, it all has a balance and a counter balance. Black has
white and good has evil. In order to enjoy life you have to realize that
there are some negatives along the way.
Once you understand you will hopefully put that
knowledge to good use. Remember no matter where you are people can be
dangerous. By being too trusting too fast you’re simply welcoming
trouble along the way. Of this I can guarantee you.
Don’t become a totally distrusting person,
either. When I see a person who has become totally untrusting of mankind,
I see someone who has let the negative things in life rob them of the joys
they should be experiencing. By never trusting you only let the negative
create another person that can never get close to someone. No one wins.
As I climb off my soapbox one more time I will
continue. I am aware that to this point the coverage of the sexual part of
the chats has been rather sketchy. It isn’t from lack of material that I
have been holding out, it’s more of a personal level that has been
keeping me from telling all. It’s a simple reason actually; I don’t
think anyone really cares about Cynthia’s sexual exploits. There I said
it. As an everyday human being I really don’t think my sex life is
interesting. And it isn’t anything I want to spread around on the net.
I’m a very private person about all things. I also think the idea of my
brothers (hi Phillip) or my daughter reading about my sex life is kind of
gross. For them to read as well as for me to write.
Professor Taltos however has informed me he
doesn’t have a problem sharing his outlook on the sexual exploits that
have been going on in chats. He has actually told me that even though he
is aware he lives his life through my eyes, he has opinions of his own
when it comes to some subjects. So as far as I’m concerned, Prof.
Taltos’s exploits are his own to do with as he wishes. This was part of
the agreement when we started to do Cyber-Sex.
As for those of you that are concerned, about my
mental state, I promise the two personality’s thing is an issue I shall
deal with at a later date. There really isn’t any reason for alarm. I
think I have it under control. Now if I could only get rid of the little
voice in the back of my head…
I had a staff meeting with Professor Taltos the
other day. He seems to have a grievance. The claim is that we haven’t
covered any of the true issues concerning chat rooms. We have to this
point, (again according to Professor Taltos), been skirting around the
whole point of what makes cyber-sex so popular. Cyber-sex can be a lot of
fun this is a fact that we shouldn’t be ashamed of. I think if you ask
them, people want to now why and how to have fun while their there.
I was surprised by the amount of people who want
to read details of what’s really going on in the chat rooms. People, are
actually asking me to allow some of the more vivid things I have
experienced to come out in the lessons. It was there fore decided that the
good Professor should have free rein over the lesson plans of the future.
The meeting was then adjourned.
So as long as that’s all right with you I will
continue on now with an introduction to my next lesson. “Can you ever go
home?” Yes I believe you can go home when it comes to the cyber-sex. The
experience can affect you like an addiction to drugs. I have talked to
addicts that describe a high that they are always trying to achieve again.
‘That amazing first high’, as they call it! It is exactly the same
when you finally settle in and connect with someone on-line. At least I
believe when it comes to reaching that kind of satisfaction you can in
cyber-land if you want to.
But you have to be willing to allow it to
happen, too. You have to allow the conventional experience of foreplay
find a new dimension, so to speak. When you do allow yourself to use your
imagination and it takes you away, this is an experience you will never
forget. And one you will enjoy going to find over and over again.
My most frustrating experiences when it comes to
explaining cyber-sex to someone, is those closest to home to me. Trying to
sit down and actually show someone the places I go to and the things I do
is impossible. Even my life mate, with whom I share everything, can’t
seem to grasp this concept.
Of course this is only my opinion! Since it’s
my opinion that counts right now I will be dwelling into the question of
going back to the first time. I vaguely remember my first sexual
experience in the real world yet my first sexual cyber experience is very
vivid. Is that because it has been a recent experience or is that because
the experience was much more stimulating to me? I think the question is
one worth looking into.
I believe the first sexual experience is a
traumatic one in most cases. And I believe it’s traumatic for both
sexes. There are very few of us that had the benefit of a wise tutor. And
I believe the practice of teaching sexuality to our children would benefit
them in many ways. But then again that’s just my opinion.
We shall be at looking the difference between
the two worlds when it comes to first time sexual experiences. The only
actual statistics I can use are my own and a few individuals on-line. And
even though I think it’s true the experience for the first time for a
female is usually abrupt and crude. The male part of the population
suffers from all kinds of anxieties all of they’re own. Causing the
experience usually to be anything but pleasant. If our children were
raised with a more open and comfortable outlook on their own sexuality, I
think there would be a few less messed up individuals lurking about in our
societies. Once again that’s just my opinion.
The thing I know to be absolutely true is that
the first time in cyber-land is unlike any other sexual experience that I
have ever had. I will remember it fondly forever. When I set out to find
others to talk to about it and compare notes with, I had to be creative to
get them to open up. It seems humans are tight lipped when it comes to
sex. They are never comfortable talking about it or expressing their
feelings about the subject.
This includes cyber-land, even though there
isn’t any danger of disclosure, I had to be creative in convincing
people it’s all right to talk about sex. I have even come across those
that deny having any sexual enjoyment at all in the chat rooms. (Sorry
guys, but I don’t believe you). I do believe that there is a certain
amount of guilt felt when we enjoy anything that’s not of the norm. For
example I have a passion for going and touring old cemeteries; some would
think this is a bit out of the norm and have a hard time understanding it.
I don’t feel guilty admitting the enjoyment of it, but put this in a
sexual context such as cyber-sex and you find those who will never admit
enjoyment, because they feel guilty.
The fact I had a bit of a hard time finding
honest open discussion on the subject only made me want to find out why.
It seems to me the taboo’s, the shame, the all round attitude of silence
towards sex has infiltrated even cyber-land. I am afraid I can not stand
for this! If it means I must lead the way towards sexual freedom I shall!
Well at least I can write about my experiences and hope that it comes
close to what others have had.
Maybe by sharing what I have had so far it will
in a small way help others do the same. Like a whirlpool the effects could
carry on. Maybe someday we can live in a world where it isn’t taboo to
talk. And maybe someday we can live in a world where we learn how to talk
about all the subjects, as we should be. And maybe the way towards the
freedom is to simply learn how to talk. Wouldn’t it be funny if it was
all that simple? Seriously, for those of us who spend our time complaining
about the lack of communication I think it is time to put our money where
our mouths are! I shall try to live up to my end in the next lesson by
providing a lesson plan full of the goodies you all are looking for. Once
again I will mention I’m not good at smut (You can stop laughing now
Dave!) but I am sure I’ll be able to give you something that will not
only be informative but have a bit of the smuttier side of life also.
Until next time this is Professor Taltos signing
off for now!
(I
have grown tired of the acronyms for now but will be including more in
later lessons.)
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