Spanking
Dear Aunt Cynthia.
I don’t know what you would call a bad fetish, but my girlfriend of five years can’t seem to reach her climax unless I’m punishing her. The punishment varies, but it always has to be harsh enough to make her cry and beg me to stop. I’m always careful not to really hurt her, but I wonder if this isn’t a little
"Abby normal"? Can this cause some kind of permanent damage to her mind? I don’t know much about this except what we learn in the chat rooms. We live in a small town, and there isn’t much available on the subject, so we spend a lot of time on-line.
Don’t get me wrong; I love her and I really get off when we do this, but lately it seems she needs harsher and harsher punishment in order to be satisfied. I still really enjoy having sex with my lady, but I wonder if we’re not getting a little carried away with this.
We’d sure like to hear your opinion on this one. Thanks for your time.
Carl and Bonnie
Dear Bonnie and Carl,
Your e-mail tells me that the two of you communicate well and aren’t afraid of trying new things. Good for you. I really get tired of hearing a mate complaining about their spouse, and when I ask how the other half feels, they don’t have a clue. How can anyone expect a relationship to grow if you don’t know each other? Your openness is a refreshing change; it tells me you both truly care what the other feels or needs to be happy.
To answer your first question, no I really don’t think anything two consenting adults do behind closed doors is bad. As long as no one gets hurt (as in against their will) and as long as it doesn’t involve children or animals (as in anything innocent or unable to speak its own mind), then I really think the definition of fetishes is an open book. Just because I don’t understand or like a certain sexual act doesn’t mean it’s wrong. It simply means that I have a different opinion on the matter.
As for it causing some kind of mental damage, I really am not sure. I don’t think this is causing mental distress, but I would feel better if you talked to a professional on this. I’m really not sure. Personally I don’t think
you're adding any pressure to her mental stability. The pressures (if there are any) are already there.
If you want to try to understand your girlfriend a wee bit better why don’t you just ask her? I would suggest you ask what goes on with her during the act. Is she remembering a past experience? Sometimes a young girl can get sexually excited while being spanked. Usually the child is far too young to understand the feeling, but it stays with them into adulthood. It only goes to follow that some of us enjoy a wee spanking once in a while.
There may be one more explanation for her fetish. It’s no great secret that we humans have endorphins, and a high amount of endorphins cause a feeling of euphoria. This may come into play during a spanking experience. Henceforth the more sever the punishment, the more endorphins released, and the better the high. Remember that’s just my theory as I have stated before; I’m not an expert.
My final thought on this concerning you and your girlfriend is that if you both enjoy what your doing, and it’s not damaging either of you, then why not go ahead and have fun. Remember to be careful and use your common sense, but don’t be afraid to try new things. It’ll keep the spark alive, believe me.
All the best Bonnie and Carl, have a great life together.
Aunt Cynthia
Well that’s about it for this time, keep the e-mails coming I love hearing from all of you. askauntcynthia@storiesbyemail.com
Aunt Cynthia
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