For The Love Of Children Dear Aunt Cynthia,
I need some advice; I hope you can help me. My girlfriend is acting really strange. She comes home late and tells me she had to work late. Yesterday was payday, and I glanced at her pay
stub; her pay is exactly as it always has been. No overtime or extra vacation time.
I'm a straight-forward kind of guy, so I asked her if she was messing around. She was really calm and even told me she was flattered, but no she isn't having an affair.
If she had gotten upset or angry, I would have been more suspicious, but I really want to believe she’s telling the truth. When I asked her where she had been, she still insists she’s working late and the extra time simply hasn’t shown up on her pay stub yet.
Can you tell me what you would think if this was you?
Thank you,
Sincerely James
Dear James,
First let me say you have impressed me immensely! It seems you’ve looked at all possibilities with an open mind and a loving heart. I’m sure this hasn’t been easy for you. Most men would have lost their cool by now. I think most women would have a problem, too. However women seem to react different to infidelity. Women tend to vent more in plans of revenge. Where as men vent in immediate rage.
As for what your girlfriend is doing, to be perfectly honest I’m not sure what she’s been up to. I can’t accuse her of anything. I don’t know the lady or all the circumstances. I don’t blame you for your suspicions however. It’s only human to wonder what’s going on. There shouldn’t be secrets between the two of you, not if it’s causing you emotional pain.
I would like to point out she may be trying to make some extra cash to buy you a nice present. So if I was you, I would be very sure of my facts before you treat her like a criminal, which from the sounds of things you won’t do anyway.
My vote on this issue goes to waiting for a wee bit and see what happens. I know this is going to be difficult for you, but it would sure beat the hell out of making all kinds of false accusations, only to find out she was planning a surprise for you. My Mom always told me “Be careful what you say, you can’t take back words. And always be sure of your facts, there are some kinds of hurts that never heal.” Many times in my life I have found this is true. As I have mentioned, my Mom was a wise woman.
Good luck to you, James, e-mail me and let me know what happens.
Aunt Cynthia
Dear Aunt Cynthia,
I have an upstairs neighbor who is driving me nuts. She has three little boys who spend
their entire day running up and down their apartment halls. I live underneath them, and let me tell you by the time the little darlings are in bed, I have a headache.
Do you know of any laws that cover noise violations or something along those lines? I would sure appreciate any advice you can give me.
Pissed off in Vancouver!
Dear Pissed Off,
Oh no; you don’t want my advice. I mean, at this particular moment, I really don’t care what you do or do not want! I’ll tell you what I think, you little twerp, and I will tell you exactly what you should do in this case. I’m not sure if you’ll understand, and I’m honestly not sure if I care, but I’ll try to explain my wrath to you. You can do as you wish with my advice.
My first question to you is, "Do you think you have more rights than a child does? Is a child less human than you?" If you answer no to these questions, then why the hell don’t you try going to the apartment door and talking to your
neighbor? I’m sure she probably gets tired of the noise too and would probably do anything to have an adult come and have coffee with her.
Do you hear her screaming at her children? Do you hear her slapping her children? Do you hear the children crying or screaming? I’ll bet you don’t hear any of the above. If you did then you better do something about it. But the noises you’re hearing are happy playtime noises. So give the poor things a break!
I understand how annoying this can be; I really do! Children don’t have a volume control. Ask any parent, and they will confirm this. So if you can, find a way to drown out the noise, such as using a comfy portable headset and a c-d player with some nice mellow
music. If this is impossible for you, then go to the horse’s mouth. Get off your butt, go to her
apartment; it will be easy to find. Just follow the noise, and ask her how she keeps her sanity.
If you go about this right, she will be glad to share her secret with you. If you act like a jerk, she may turn on you and leave you alone with the children. So I would be careful if I was you. Either way I’m pretty sure you’re going to come away a little the wiser.
Good luck my friend, you may need it!
Aunt Cynthia
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