Cheating
Dear Aunt Cynthia,
I’m positive my husband is cheating on me, but he keeps
denying it. This is causing some problems in our relationship, and we fight a
lot. I was wondering if there was some way to prove what he’s doing. I won’t
leave him, but I think I deserve to know the truth.
What do you think? I thank you for your time.
Mrs. Winters
Dear Mrs. Winters,
To claim I have been dumbfounded by your e-mail would be an
understatement! You are either pulling my leg, or you have to be one of the most
misinformed ladies I have ever heard from.
First of all if you’re “positive” your husband is
cheating on you, why do you need to prove it? In your mind and heart you know
the truth, and it’s up to you to act upon it as you chose.
Dear, dear lady, I am truly worried for you. It will never be
my station in life to judge anyone. I think I’ve made that very clear! By
e-mailing me you are asking me for my opinion, and I shall give it to you. But I
want to carefully explain to you first that these are just my opinions. Don’t
feel bad if you disagree with me; this is your life we’re talking about. And
please, if you can go to a counselor or someone you would feel comfortable with
and talk to them about your problems. Sometimes it really helps if you have more
than one opinion to debate over.
My opinion is rather harsh, and I hope you won’t be slighted
by it, but I have to get it off my chest. Have you gone completely daft woman?
If you know he’s cheating, and if you know you aren’t going to leave him for
it, why are you surprised that he may be doing it in the first place? I don’t
care how old you are or how young: a woman should never at any point in her life
have to put up with this kind of behavior! We know better these days, and we
know we deserve the same rights as any man has.
Perhaps you could ask your dear sweet hubby if he would object
to you taking on a lover. If he objects, then point out to him how you feel when
he does the same thing. And if he doesn’t object, why not go to the gym, get
nice and firm (if need be) and find yourself a little love on the side. I’ve
never had to go to these lengths simply because I don’t believe infidelity has
a place in my world. If I ever thought my mate was being unfaithful to me, the
relationship would end. Knowing myself as well as I do, I know there would
always be a trust issue between us from that point on. I am also a firm believer
that without trust there isn’t a true relationship. But as I’ve said these
are my opinions, and these are my rules for my life; to choose a different path
is entirely up to you.
My final words on this issue, Mrs. Winters, is please be sure
of what decisions you come to and please realize that you’re never alone. Turn
to a friend, a doctor, or whomever you need to, and talk about what’s going on
in your life. They may be able to help you. And don’t ever forget you can
always e-mail Aunt Cynthia, I’m always glad to hear from you, and I would like
to know how you do.
Good luck Mrs. Winters. Take Care of yourself.
Aunt Cynthia
That’s it for today folks. Remember keep those e-mails
coming, and be kind to each other.
You can find me at askauntcynthia@storiesbyemail.com
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