A Mother’s Love
Dear Aunt Cynthia,
I believe in God, and I honor His words, respect them, and try to understand them through the Holy Spirit. A mother demanded that her son sell drugs, and he did. Now, both of them are in jail. Could he have honored his mother by telling her that he respects her as his mother but refuses to sell drugs because that is both legally and morally wrong? Please, is there any scripture that can help me to understand?
Sally
Dear Sally,
Here are some scriptures that may help.
Leviticus 20:9 For every one that curseth his father or his mother shall be surely put to death: he hath cursed his father or his mother; his blood shall be upon him.
Proverbs 23:22 Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old.
Mark7:10 For Moses said, Honour thy father and thy mother; and, Whoso curseth father or mother, let him die the
death.
Proverbs 11:29 He that troubleth his own house shall inherit the wind: and the fool shall be servant to the wise of heart.
Proverbs 17:13 Whoso rewardeth evil for good, evil shall not depart from his house.
Now here’s my take on the situation. I hope you don’t mind, Sally, but I have to get my two cents in.
It’s my humble opinion that when a woman becomes a mother, it is her duty to protect and wisely guide her
offspring as they grow into adulthood. The same is true for the father as well as the rest of the family that are involved with the child. One of the greatest honors in this world is the privilege of being allowed to raise a child. To do anything that harms that child is criminally and morally wrong.
However in Matthew 10:37 the scripture reads: He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
Depending on your beliefs this can be interpreted in many ways. That’s the point really isn’t it Sally? How you interpret the passages. No one can dictate to you what you take out of the passages. This can be said of the entire bible. It’s up to the individual to decide what is right or wrong for them.
At any rate, I sincerely hope you find some kind of comfort in this Sally and I wish you all the best.
Aunt Cynthia.
Dear Aunt Cynthia,
My sixteen-year-old son wants to drop out of school. His grades aren’t that great, and I’m sure he isn’t going to school most of the time anyway. Is it wrong for me to let him drop out? I’m sick and tired of bitching him into going everyday. My boyfriend says I’m encouraging him to be a quitter. Things between my son and I have started to become difficult, and I don’t want that to happen, we’re very close. Any suggestions?
Paula
Dear Paula,
My first suggestion is tell your boyfriend to butt out! He’s not the boy’s father. The only positive male role model your son should have is one that’s on the same page as you. Once you’ve cleared the air on who’s the parent and who isn’t then you can deal with the rest of this issue.
When it comes to getting an education, I believe it’s up to the parents to help the children get what ever they need to succeed in this world. At his age you aren’t going to be able to force your son to go. If you have to fight to get him to school, it’s obvious to me this isn’t going to work, anyway. He may need a different kind of incentive. Talk to him and ask him why he hates school and what he thinks would spark his interest. See if he has something he would really apply himself to and run with it.
The thing that will matter the most to him, years from now, is the fact his Mother cared enough to listen to what he had to say about his future. He will also remember that you didn’t give up on him.
Good luck Paula.
Aunt Cynthia
Dear Aunt Cynthia,
When do you think it’s all right to have a talk about sex with your child?
Emily in Boston
Dear Emily,
That’s a really good question.
First we have to remember each and every child in this world is unique in their own way. Some children are ready much sooner than others to learn about sex.
Then we have to remember that we are all born sexual creatures. Don’t go over board when you find your three year old masturbating. This is a natural part of their development, and should be treated as something natural.
Toddlers will become very aware and curious at about the age of four. Remember however that all children are different in they’re development.
My best advice I can give you is for you to talk to your pediatrician. A good doctor who knows your child will be able to help you.
Good luck Emily.
Aunt Cynthia
That’s about it for this week. Thank you for your e-mails remember if you have a question or a problem I’ll try to help.
Remember you can reach me at
askauntcynthia@storiesbyemail.com.
Until then I remain as always your Aunt Cynthia!
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